Mark Twain said “I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life. The problem is I can’t find anybody who can tell me what they want.”
Often, our goals aren’t clear, they are actually fairly vague and full of holes. Have you ever said:
- I want to look better.
- I want more intimacy with my spouse.
- I want to have more time for me.
- I want to have a more fulfilling career.
- I want to make a difference in the world.
While these are great concepts….they are actually pretty crummy goals, from a goal-setting, getting it done point of view.
Because I’m a health coach, I want to focus on your health. Do you have a goal or a concept for your body and health? Have you created action steps to move you toward that goal, or are you winging it, hoping for the best?
Today, I want you to focus, truly focus, on the body you have right now. Are you at your best weight? Are you able to do the things you want to do, like run after your children, play a sport or roll around on the floor with your pet? Is your blood pressure normal and your cholesterol and blood sugar within healthy range? Does your body ache or hurt? Is your mind clear and focused? Do you enjoy sex and reach climax easily? Heck, do you enjoy having sex with the lights ON? Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror?
If the answer is “no” to any one of these questions, it is time to set a body goal that creates a ridiculous level of health in your life. Be specific. Drill down to the details. Dream and imagine how you would look and how you would be different if you met that goal. How would your shopping experiences be different? How would you feel when you looked at a scale? Or, in a mirror? Write down all the things this optimal body could and would do. Would you initiate sex more often? Wear shorts or a bathing suit? Go to an amusement part and be confident of your ability to fit in the seat? Think of all the dreams in your life and how having optimal health would support you in obtaining those goals more quickly.
Now…write down your goals, the things that you want most. In paper and with ink or on your computer…it doesn’t matter. Don’t worry about your handwriting or spelling challenges. Just write.
Then…finish each goal with “so that”, and complete the sentence from that point. Here’s an example:
I am committed to losing x pounds so that…
…I can live to see my grandchildren
…I can fly on a plane and fit in the seat
…I can go rockclimbing and hiking any time I want
…I can be a positive role model for others
That’s a great start! Next time we’ll smarten them up.
Need support? Don’t hesitate to contact me at lynette[at]unlockyourmetabolism.com.